Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration

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Detailed instructions on using this exercise with clients are available in my book The Mother-Daughter Puzzle.

Second, Sandeep’s mother could have been jealous of her daughter’s freedom and opportunities, even though she probably was unaware that her criticism and anger were rooted in jealousy. Happily, I am seeing a huge shift from adult daughters in their 20s, 30s and 40s who are waking up to this patriarchal theme and wanting change. I had to help Sandeep stay safe and grieve the loss of her family even as she gained her own voice and life.As a few of the other reviewers have shared, it seems as if the author is putting therapy down to advertise her method of "coaching" as more beneficial. Funny and compassionate: This audiobook is about Anderson discovering and accepting the whole of who she is (separate from her mother), and making her discoveries accessible to women struggling to redefine their challenging relationships with their mothers.

L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach, author, and blogger who makes sure adult daughters know how to create autonomy, resilience, and empowerment in their lives by helping them redefine who they are in relationship to their mothers. L. Anderson is a storyteller who believes that the truth never creates suffering and that all stories can be told through the lens of truth. Karen is child-free by choice, has three step kids, and now gets to be Booboo to her stepdaughter’s two children. If you enjoy activity books for adults or found books like Tiny Buddha's Worry Journal, The Self Confidence Workbook, or The Artist's Journey helpful, you’ll enjoy Overcoming Creative Anxiety. It creates an either-or dynamic in which the mother and daughter fight over who gets to be heard and emotionally supported in their relationship because they do not know how to create a normal in which both are heard and supported.Peppered throughout the book, exercises foster compassion, acceptance, and creativity, supporting your healing journey one day at a time. She wanted to feel free to say what she felt and needed and for her mother to speak her mind and stop the guessing games. Her previous book, The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide to Separating from a Difficult Mother, was an international bestseller, and she offers new practical wisdom in this journal.

I also helped Sandeep navigate the pushback she got from her mother and father when she stopped complying with their demands to be the family’s unpaid housekeeper. While I learned some valuable tools that I will attempt to put to practice, I don’t think that this was the right book for me. This is more of a journal promt about emotions that says it tackles the relationship with your mother, but doesn't really. The book is full of lots of excuses for mothers and says they are only emotionally abusing us because they are suffering and hurt. My relationship with my mother had shaped who I was, and when my daughter was born 30 years ago, I knew I had to change the harmful themes that were being passed down the generations.This did not prevent Sandeep from working on understanding and improving her relationship with her mother, however. He used their youth and inexperience with men to woo them his way as a poor misunderstood “victim” of my “unreasonable/crazy” attempts to set boundries on his inapproriate grooming our daughters to step into my place to mert his needs. As is the case with any couple, mothers and daughters rarely fight over what they say they are arguing over. Took me ages to plod through as some sections were triggering but I expected to finally hit nuggets of truth or advice, but this book was so full of the “power of positive thinking” that I nearly gave up on it all together. Although I never met Sandeep’s mother, it was apparent to me (based on Sandeep’s descriptions) that she had internalized this family belief and did not know any other way of being.