Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters

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To quote the book Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life, “ If Mother is always saying, ‘You’re stupid,’ then you’re stupid.

Susan Forward draws on real-life voices and stories of both women and men struggling to free themselves from the frustrating, hurtful, and infuriating relationships with their toxic in-laws. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. Being born to a narcissistic mother can be one of the most destructive scenarios to face, and some daughters never find peace, not even after the death of their mother. When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. As parents, the impulse to protect our children is strong, but that very protection can end up handicapping them for life.Other daughters report feeling surprised when they succeed at something, as well as being hesitant to try something new so as to reduce the possibility of failure. Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can’t Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests.

This book helps me acknowledge the painful impact of my mother's parenting style on my life, choices, and day-to-day responses to other people. The many different kinds of unloving mothers the narcissistic mother, the competitive mother, the overly enmeshed mother, the control freak, mothers who need mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse are all described in these pages. As an adult child of an emotionally immature parent (ACEIP), you may be particularly vulnerable to EIPs. While my friends get teary-eyed over sappy mother-daughter newsfeed posts, I feel sick knowing I’ll never have that relationship.Abusive parents tend to share common traits - they are constantly negatively reactive, lack empathy, are extremely controlling, always critical, and continuously transfer blame to you. If you come across someone who has a mother like this, please do not say, “I’m sure she loves you” or “Respect your mother! It won’t surprise you that the most common wounds are those to the self and the area of emotional connection. If you're looking for permission to heal, to overcome and summon your strength to find joy and meaning for yourself, this is the book.

He offers many interesting but tendentious examples to illustrate his theory, including Einstein, Darwin, Mozart and Temple Grandin.Strayed’s true blossoming happens in her longer works; while this collection might brighten someone’s day—and is sure to sell plenty of copies during the holidays—it’s no substitute for the real thing. As an adult, you have fought hard to establish your own sense of self, and heal the wounds caused by your upbringing. You have the right to defend yourself, to be the real hero of the child who should’ve been cared for by the woman who decided to give it life. Or they are unable to set other boundaries which make for healthy and emotionally sustaining relationships.