A Way of Being

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This is the first book by Rogers that I've read. I found it inspiring in it's humanistic philosophy and light on details. Rogers writes a lot about the efficacy of encounter groups without detailing what actually happens in them. He includes excerpts from interviews and letters about the transformative experience of being seen by the therapist without describing how to recreate that environment. He speculates about the feelings of large groups of people and how they can spontaneously organize without including what they accomplish through that organization. It just feels like there is not much of an emphasis on the reproducible, falsifiable thinking and evidence that I look for in psychology reading. It does feel like Carl Rogers thinks expressing feelings is valuable. I'm just not convinced that simple expression is enough to confront the material problems that often intersect with the mental anguish we face. Play refers to the manner in which we relate to our life journey. Play is about engaging in life with curiosity and interest, rather than achievement-centred earnestness. The need for play is underpinned by the following core principle: Principle (vi): Our obsession with measurable results is adverse to our wellbeing

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I conclude that if nations follow their past ways, then, because of the speed of world communication of separate views, each society will have to exert more and more coercion to bring about a forced agreement as to what constitutes the real world and its values. Those coerced agreements will differ from nation to nation, from culture to culture. The coercion will destroy individual freedom. We will bring about our own destruction through the clashes caused by different world views.” We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know. Carl Rogers When I look at a sunset as I did the other evening, I don’t find myself saying, “Soften the orange a little on the right hand corner, and put a bit more purple along the base, and use a little more pink in the cloud color.” I don’t do that. I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch it with awe as it unfolds. I like myself best when I can appreciate my staff member, my son, my daughter, my grandchildren, in this same way. I believe this is a somewhat Oriental attitude; for me it is a most satisfying one.” The kind of caring that the client-centered therapist desires to achieve is a gullible caring, in which clients are accepted as they say they are, not with a lurking suspicion in the therapist's mind that they may, in fact, be otherwise. This attitude is not stupidity on the therapist's part; it is the kind of attitude that is most likely to lead to trust...”Condition: Good. Good condition. A copy that has been read but remains intact. May contain markings such as bookplates, stamps, limited notes and highlighting, or a few light stains. Bundled media such as CDs, DVDs, floppy disks or access codes may not be included. as i read this, it inspired me to read more psychology books to motivate me to a better misunderstanding of myself and the world around me. Play is supported by self-acceptance (attribute I) and connectedness (attribute II) in allowing us to be “citizens of the universe, enjoying freely the spectacle that it offers and the joys that it affords, untroubled by the thought of death because we feel ourselves not really separate from those who will come after” (Russell, 2006, p.175). This is one of the most common misconceptions of the Actualising Tendency, and more specifically, the term self-actualisation.

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This involves taking responsibility for the decisions, actions and outcomes that have been agreed upon with another person or contracted with an organisation. In other words, did you deliver what you promised? The problem here is that you can easily commit to taking action without fully understanding what you agreed to. Care must be taken to listen and clarify what exactly was offered or requested and the criteria for agreeing on a satisf actory outcome. Personal credibility is the foundation of all trust. Are your intentions sincere and do you care about what you promise? Do you remain reliable and capable, even when mistakes are made? Your Way of Being needs to demonstrate respect, being prepared to listen, to clarify expetations and confront reality with genuine concern and straight talking. Person-centred Counselling is never far from misunderstanding and misinterpretation and the Actualising Tendency is no different. People can often make a lot of mistakes in their understanding and view of the Actualising Tendency. I will look at the two mains ones here. Too Positive – What about all the bad things people do? Kişi odaklı yaklaşımı öğrenmek için elinize aldığınız kitabı bir sürü kafa karışıklığı ile bitiriyorsunuz.In place of the term “realness” I have sometimes used the word “congruence.” By this I mean that when my experiencing of this moment is present in my awareness and when what is present in my awareness is present in my communication, then each of these three levels matches or is congruent. At such moments I am integrated or whole, I am completely in one piece. Most of the time, of course, I, like everyone else, exhibit some degree of incongruence. I have learned, however, that realness, or genuineness, or congruence—whatever term you wish to give it—is a fundamental basis for the best of communication.” True empathy is always free of any evaluative or diagnostic quality. This comes across to the recipient with some surprise. "If I am not being judged, perhaps I am not so evil or abnormal as I have thought.”

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When I can relax, and be close to the transcendental core of me, then I may behave in strange and impulsive ways in the relationship, ways I cannot justify rationally, which have nothing to do with my thought processes. But these strange behaviors turn out to be right in some odd way. At these moments it seems that my inner spirit has reached out and touched the inner spirit of the other. Our relationship transcends itself and has become something larger.”

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It may not immediately be apparent that your body posture and energy level play a key role in the quality of your interactions and performance. You communicate more through your body than your words. Actors learn how to emote feelings and attitudes in the way they hold their body, use gestures, eye movements and rhythm in their voice tone and pace as they shift from one mood or emotion to another. Your body holds these memories so you can reproduce them at will. to RELATIONSHIPS/ CONNECTIONS Experience is, for me, the highest authority. The touchstone of validity is my own experience. No other person's ideas, and none of my own ideas, are as authoritative as my experience. It is to experience that I must return again and again, to discover a closer approximation to truth as it is in the process of becoming me. Carl Rogers Similar to the potato sprouts, Rogers is talking here of how clients can appear in the same way. Their lives can seem abnormal, twisted and scarcely human, due to the unfavourable conditions that they have faced in their lives. Although people may judge the “abnormal” ways in which some people try and live their lives, maybe even just survive, this is as much a sign of the Actualising Tendency as those whose lives seem to be thriving. One of the most satisfying feelings I know—and also one of the most growth-promoting experiences for the other person—comes from my appreciating this individual in the same way that I appreciate a sunset. People are just as wonderful as sunsets if I can let them be. In fact, perhaps the reason we can truly appreciate a sunset is that we cannot control it.” The main criticism tends to be something along the lines of – If the Actualising Tendency is always moving towards growth and development, then why are there so many problems in the world and people choose to do such destructive things?

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It is so obvious when a person is not hiding behind a facade but is speaking from deep within himself.” To Rubin, art is the ultimate form of self-actualization, a noble calling that enriches the soul . . . So, how does an artist move from conception to creation? Rubin methodically lays out the process, offering a mixture of encouragement, inspiration and tips . . . Rubin has written a fascinating book infused with deep thoughts, insight and, yes, lots and lots of creativity.” — Los Angeles Times A gorgeous, delicious and wildly practical interrogation of the creative process. A master of his craft, Rubin supplies rich insights, sound advice, helpful suggestions and supreme comfort to anyone living to create, or endeavoring to live creatively.” —JJ Abrams Experience is, for me, the highest authority. The touchstone of validity is my own experience. No other person's ideas, and none of my own ideas, are as authoritative as my experience. It is to experience that I must return again and again, to discover a closer approximation to truth as it is in the process of becoming in me." -Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person There are also multiple chapters on Rogers’ encounter groups. Which is good if you want to read about things like how the workshop staff prepared by ‘letting themselves be’, or how they discussed sexual behaviour before a workshop which then had “an almost telepathic knowledge’ of this. Or you can hear endlessly about how Rogers thinks encounter groups are the key to solving everything from the Israel-Palestine conflict to global hunger.There isn't much I can say about this book that isn't already in the blurb. The book has four major parts and these parts are further divided into chapters. The first part talks about his personal experiences and retrospectives on reaching certain age-related milestones. The second part discusses his approach to his work. The third part discusses education and it's future. The fourth and final part discusses Dr. Rogers' personal ideal scenario of the future. I believe that the nature of human consciousness is such that it involves a natural tendency towards a multitude of emotions, including those such as love and empathy, as well as emotions such as anger and fear. Commenting on “man’s drives”, Jung refers to “expressions of psychic energy” and views them as “various manifestations of energetic processes and thus as forces analogous to heat, light etc.” (Jung, 1960, pp.234-235, Jung, 1928). While Jung was specifically commenting on the unconscious, I believe the phenomenon is more universally true of human nature. It really feels to me like the rare book that’s evergreen…It’s a book I wish I would have had on my shelf when I was 25. It’s a book I would give to people who are 25. Maybe it will be the ultimate graduation gift.” —Steve Levitt, People I (Mostly) Admire Rogers believed that all living organisms (humans, plants, animals, vegetables etc) had one basic tendency and striving. That no matter what the conditions, the organism would try to grow, develop and enhance the experience of the organism and at the very least, maintain.